In this special extended episode of the Spirits Beside Us, I wanted to explore something I’ve noticed over and over again after thousands of readings, spiritual conversations, and personal experiences with spirit communication: most people completely misunderstand how spirit actually speaks to us.
People expect spiritual guidance to feel dramatic. They expect some giant undeniable moment — a booming voice, a crystal-clear message, or some kind of supernatural event that leaves absolutely no room for doubt. But honestly, that’s rarely how it happens.
Most of the time, spirit communicates much more quietly than people expect.
A song keeps showing up.
The same number appears everywhere.
You suddenly think about someone… and then they call.
You get a strange feeling about something… but then you immediately talk yourself out of it.
At first it all feels random. Until it keeps happening. And eventually the question changes from “Was that coincidence?”to “Why does this keep repeating?”
That’s one of the biggest things I’ve learned through this work: spirit rarely shouts. Usually… it repeats.
And I think a huge part of the problem is that most people expect spirit communication to feel louder than it actually does. They expect fireworks exploding behind their head and some giant neon sign saying, “HELLO CHRIS! THIS IS SPIRIT SPEAKING!” But of course it almost never arrives that way. Most of the time it feels natural. Almost too natural. And that’s exactly why people dismiss it.
You suddenly think about somebody and then later they call. You get a strange feeling not to do something, ignore it, and later realize you probably should’ve listened. You walk into a room and immediately something inside you tightens before your logical mind starts explaining away what you’re sensing.
Now don’t get me wrong. Not every random thought is spirit. Sometimes your brain is just tired. Sometimes life is stressful. Sometimes your nervous system genuinely needs a nap and a sandwich. But what consistently comes through in readings — over and over again — is how often people ignored what they already felt deep down. Not because spirit wasn’t communicating. But because they didn’t trust themselves enough to listen.
One of the strongest patterns I’ve seen is that spirit guides often reinforce the same message repeatedly, but through different forms. Not always through the exact same presentation, but through the same symbolic meaning appearing from multiple angles.
That’s why repetition matters so much.
One repeated song may seem random. One repeated symbol may seem explainable. But eventually the pattern itself starts becoming impossible to comfortably ignore.
I shared an experience in this episode that honestly still makes me laugh. I was sitting at my computer outlining this exact podcast episode about how spirit communicates through repetition when I suddenly felt compelled to look at the clock in the corner of my screen.
12:12.
Immediately I started laughing because this is exactly how spirit tends to work. Then moments later I saw another reference connected to “awakening” and “3 signs.” Then I felt that familiar effervescent champagne-like energy around my upper arms and shoulders — the same sensation I often experience when I’m blending strongly with spirit during readings or meditation.
Now individually? Every single one of those things could probably be explained away. That’s the point.
Spirit usually communicates subtly enough that you still have free will. You still get to choose whether to notice it or ignore it. If spirit appeared directly in front of you every five minutes shouting instructions into your ear, there wouldn’t really be much room left for your own awareness, growth, or discernment.
Instead, spirit nudges.
And those nudges often become patterns.
I’ve seen this happen constantly during readings as well. I remember sitting with a woman during a session when I suddenly became aware of Guns N’ Roses. Internally I was thinking, “Okay… I really hope this makes sense because right now I probably sound ridiculous.” But the moment I mentioned it, she gasped. She told me she had been hearing Guns N’ Roses repeatedly on the radio lately and couldn’t understand why. It turned out it had been her loved one’s favorite band.
That’s the thing most people miss. The sign itself usually isn’t the important part. The repetition is.
And honestly, I think many people misunderstand the purpose of signs altogether. Most people think signs are about proving spirit exists. Personally, I think signs are much more about awareness than proof.
They’re about helping you notice.
Helping you pause long enough to reconnect with what you already feel underneath all the noise, fear, overthinking, and constant mental chatter. Because I don’t actually think your spiritual connection is missing. I think your awareness is.
Connection already exists.
Spirit communication already exists.
Your intuition is already active.
You’re just overlooking it because you expect it to feel dramatic instead of natural.
And sometimes the signs aren’t external at all.
Sometimes the sign is the emotional heaviness itself.
After thousands of readings, one thing I’ve seen repeatedly is how often people knew something was wrong long before they admitted it to themselves. They stay in draining relationships. They avoid important conversations. They keep overriding their intuition because their logical brain keeps demanding impossible levels of certainty before allowing them to trust themselves.
Nothing catastrophic happens immediately, which is exactly what makes it so easy to ignore.
But slowly, the disconnection compounds. The emotional numbness deepens. The same frustrations repeat over and over until eventually there’s this quiet internal feeling of: “Something feels off in my life… but I can’t explain why.”
And honestly, I think that’s one of the biggest reasons many people become spiritually curious in the first place. Not because they’re looking for magic. But because deep down they already sense there’s more happening beneath the surface of life than what can immediately be explained logically.
One of the biggest questions people ask me is whether they’re simply imagining all of this. Even as a medium, I still question things sometimes because we’re human. Skepticism is part of being human.
But imagination usually feels mentally constructed.
Spirit often feels received.
It arrives softly. Naturally. Unexpectedly. And one of the biggest differences is that genuine spirit communication usually leaves behind a sense of peace, clarity, stillness, or recognition rather than fear or emotional chaos.
Another thing I’ve learned is that spirit guidance often only makes sense in hindsight. We want the full map immediately. We want certainty now. But spirit usually works through breadcrumbs instead of complete explanations.
I shared the story of “Montclair Medium” in this episode because it became one of the clearest examples of this in my own life. For years I thought the name was simply practical because I lived in Montclair, New Jersey. It wasn’t until years later — after eventually moving to Asheville — that I realized “Montclair” translates to “Clear Mountain” in French. Suddenly something I thought was ordinary carried a completely different meaning.
That experience changed the way I view spiritual guidance.
Spirit often plants clues into our lives years before we understand where they’re leading us.
And maybe that’s the part you’ll start noticing more now too. Not necessarily the dramatic moments… but the quiet repetitions. The timing. The patterns. The emotional pulls. The things that keep returning to your awareness for reasons you may not fully understand yet.
Because maybe the real question isn’t whether spirit is trying to reach you.
Maybe the real question is whether you’ve been paying attention.
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