Have you ever wondered whether there is a simple way to hear your spirit guides? I have worked as an evidential medium, spiritual teacher and author for nearly ten years, and I still have stretches when connecting with my own guides is harder than I would like. What has helped me most is not a new technique but a simpler way of approaching it.
In this week's episode of Spirits Beside Us, I walk through that approach step by step, including a short live connection experience you can try while you listen. Here is a closer look at what I cover.
What connection actually feels like
Many people assume that if nothing big happens, nothing happened. But have you ever had a quiet moment where you simply knew something, or felt gently steered in a certain direction? That is the kind of connection I am talking about.
When you begin connecting with your guides, you may feel a wave of peace. You might have a thought that feels wiser than your own, or get goosebumps for no obvious reason, or feel a gentle nudge toward a certain path. It is usually very subtle, so it helps to pay attention to the quiet underneath a busy mind. Your guides speak your internal language.
In the episode I guide you through a short experience. If you are somewhere safe, close your eyes, take a slow breath, and quietly say, "Spirit Guides, I'm open to you now, and I'm listening." Then notice what you feel. It might be warmth on your skin, a color, or simply a sense of comfort. It does not have to be dramatic. It just has to be yours, and the more often you open up this way, the stronger the connection tends to become.
If you have ignored your guides for years
A question I hear often is whether guides are still around after years of being ignored. They are. In my understanding, your guides have been with you far longer than this lifetime. Before you came into this life, you worked with them to plan the lessons, relationships and growth you wanted to experience. Most of us were probably ambitious in that planning, and our guides helped pace it out, knowing a human life is harder than it looks from the spirit side.
They have walked through human lives before, so they understand what you are dealing with. They do not judge you, and they have not left. They also grow as you grow, which is part of why they are so invested in your path.
A five-step way to reconnect
If it has been a long time, this is a process you can start using today.
- Speak aloud to your guides. Say, "Spirit Guides, I'd like to reconnect." You can say it in your car, your living room, or on a walk. Speaking it gives your intention a clear starting point.
- Create a five-minute window. Find a quiet spot, close your eyes, take a breath, and imagine your guides standing beside you. Even if it feels like imagination, go with it.
- Notice the subtle. It might be a sensation, a word or image that floats in, a warm feeling in your chest, or a sense of calm that was not there before. These things are subtle at first, but they are real.
- Write it down. Jot down anything that came up, even a single word like "peaceful." Writing it anchors the experience and helps you see patterns over time.
- Repeat gently. Try the five-minute process daily, with no pressure and no goal. Just show up and let the relationship build.
The three blocks I see most often
Overthinking. You ask a question and your mind jumps in with, "That's just me," or, "That's not Spirit." You end up filtering and second-guessing everything that comes through.
Expectation. Many of us expect connection to be loud, dramatic and crystal clear. It more often arrives as feelings, memories, flashes or shifts in energy. Spirit is so subtle that a busy conscious mind can easily talk over it.
Unworthiness. This one runs deep. You tell yourself that other people can do this but you cannot, or that you would hear something if you were more spiritual. You were born with the ability to connect. It is built in, and it simply gets buried under noise. The first step is letting go of the belief that you are broken. You are not. You are learning how to tune in.
When I was the one hearing nothing
I had to learn this the same way you do. Before I ever connected with my guides, I had started meditating because I needed some calm in my life. Meditation became the one place where I could breathe again.
Then I began hearing stories about people connecting with their guides, hearing voices, receiving signs and feeling comforted. I felt two things at once: disbelief and longing. Part of me said it was ridiculous. Another part wondered whether there might be more.
So I started trying. During meditation I would say softly, "Spirit Guides, I'm open to hearing from you, if you're even there." I asked for signs. I even got specific and asked to be shown a blue feather if they were real. Then I waited, and nothing came. No feather, no feeling, only silence.
Spiritual silence can be lonely when your heart is wide open. The doubt crept in. I asked myself why other people were connecting and I was not, and whether I was blocked or simply not spiritual enough. I was showing up every day, and it still felt like standing at a doorway that would not open. There was one afternoon, after another session where I felt absolutely nothing, when I stood in my kitchen with a heavy feeling in my chest and thought I might not be cut out for this.
Then a small thought came, not loud and not profound: What if it is not that you are broken, but that no one taught you how to listen?
That changed my approach. I had been listening for something loud and obvious, when what I needed was a gentle adjustment, like tuning a faint radio station. I stopped trying so hard. Instead of demanding proof, I simply invited presence. I stopped waiting for thunder and started noticing the breeze.
That is when I began to feel my guides. It was not cinematic. It showed up as a peaceful warmth when I least expected it, a phrase that felt wiser than my own thinking, ideas that arrived out of nowhere, and a flash of color in meditation that left comfort behind. None of it was huge, but all of it was real, and from there I built a relationship based on presence and trust rather than performance.
A place to start
If you would like some help connecting with your guides gently and without pressure to get it right, I created a free Spirit Guide Connection Starter Kit. It is the same method I have used with thousands of students and clients.
Get the free Spirit Guide Connection Starter Kit: montclairmedium.com/guides
Whatever your experience has been so far, your guides are always with you. You are not doing this alone.
Love and Light,
Chris
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