If you’ve ever tried to connect with your spirit guides and heard nothing, it’s easy to assume something is wrong with you, or that your guides aren’t responding.
But in almost every case, neither of those things is true.
There’s something happening in the first thirty seconds of your attempt to connect that quietly blocks the entire experience. Once you shift this, your connection can become clearer and more natural, often immediately.
This is what today’s episode is all about. Below is a simple, practical breakdown of what I experienced, what I learned, and how you can apply it.
Before the Breakthrough: When Nothing Worked
Years ago, before I ever called myself a medium, I was working on Wall Street — stressed, exhausted, and spiritually disconnected. I believed in the spirit world. I hoped I could feel my loved ones who had passed. I wanted guidance.
But no matter what I tried, nothing happened.
I meditated, journaled, tuned chakras, did breathwork, carried crystals, tried every technique I could find. Still nothing.
Like many people, I kept thinking I needed to try harder. But the harder I tried, the more silent everything felt.The Unexpected 30-Second Shift
Then one morning, I wasn’t trying anything at all. No meditation. No intention. No ritual. I was simply getting ready for work, calm and quiet.
In about thirty seconds, I felt something shift.
A presence.
A wave of calm.
A knowing that didn’t come from my own mind.
And I heard the clearest message I had ever felt:
“Stop trying so hard. We’re already here.”
That moment changed everything. It showed me that the connection wasn’t missing. I was just approaching it in a way that made it impossible to feel.
This is the same pattern I see in almost everyone.
Why Your Spirit Guides Feel Silent
Here are the real reasons your guides feel out of reach, based on what I learned in my own journey and what I teach in this episode.
1. You’re not disconnected. You’re distracted.
Your guides do not leave. They do not ignore you. They do not go silent.
But when your mind is full of pressure, fear, overthinking, or trying to “get it right,” the channel gets filled with noise. Spirit communicates subtly. If your inner world is loud, you simply won’t register the guidance that’s already present.
It’s not about time of day. It’s about energetic availability.
You hear better when you soften, not when you strive.
2. Silence isn’t absence. It’s integration.
This is something almost nobody talks about.
When you feel connected one day and nothing the next, it does not mean you lost the connection. It means your nervous system is catching up.
Spiritual growth is not linear. It moves in cycles: two steps forward, one step back.
The “quiet” phase is where your energy stabilizes, your ego relaxes, and your system adjusts to a higher frequency. It is not a setback. It is part of the process.
3. Connection strengthens through allowing, not controlling.
Every time I tried to force a connection or recreate a past spiritual experience, the energy shut down. The moment I stopped performing and started receiving, everything opened again.
Connection is not something you achieve.
It is something you allow.
This is the heart of the 30-second fix.
The 30-Second Fix
Here is the simple practice that changed everything for me, and that I invite you to try:
Tonight, before bed:
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Sit in stillness.
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Let your body soften.
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Release expectations.
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Say quietly:
“If you’re here, I’m listening.”
Nothing more.
No rituals.
No pressure.
No “trying to feel something.”
Just space.
Guidance becomes clear when you stop crowding the moment with effort.
What to Do When You Feel Nothing
If you sit in stillness and feel absolutely nothing, here’s what to check:
Ask yourself:
“Am I striving, or am I allowing?”
If you’re striving, loosen.
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Unclench your jaw
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Drop your shoulders
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Let your exhale be longer than your inhale
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Release the need for proof
Often, the minute your body stops bracing, the energy begins to shift.
When Doubt Shows Up
Doubt is part of the process.
After my first real connection, my mind immediately tried to talk me out of it. This happens to almost everyone.
The mind will say:
“You imagined it.”
“You wanted this too badly.”
“You’re making it up.”
Here’s the truth:
You were right the first time.
The doubt is the reflex. Not the truth.
Your doubt is your ego trying to protect you from disappointment. Notice it, but don’t follow it.
When the Silence Returns
Even after your first connection, silence will come back. It’s natural. The connection is not gone. The pressure simply crept back in.
Instead of chasing the feeling, return to stillness:
Sit.
Breathe.
Allow.
The connection rebuilds when you stop demanding an experience and return to receiving one.
Three Core Insights to Carry With You
These three ideas summarize the entire episode:
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You’re not disconnected. You’re distracted.
Spirit is always present. Your mind is sometimes too loud to notice. -
Silence isn’t absence. It’s integration.
Quiet phases are where your growth actually settles in. -
Connection strengthens when you allow, not when you control.
Guidance enters the moment you stop trying to manage it.
Try This Tonight
Give yourself thirty seconds of stillness.
Let go of pressure.
Say, “If you’re here, I’m listening.”
And notice what shifts.
Your guides have been reaching for you long before you tried reaching for them. The doorway opens when you soften enough to let them in.
For the full story, the emotional journey, and deeper guidance, watch the complete episode:
Why Your Spirit Guides Can’t Reach You (30-Second Fix)
Available on Spotify.
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